Question:

Please advise me..i am helpless and feel very much grieved because of my sins…they weigh down on me heavily, I haven’t done haram for almost all my life, but 2-3 months ago I fell in love with a girl I chatted to her every day, we were so close then she and I decided we should not be doing this anymore as it is affecting our eman, days later I broke contact with her, although it was painful. But now I feel that pain of losing her and also more than that my heart has become hard because of the sins, I want to do sincere taubah and seek forgiveness, but my heart is hard.

 

Please sheikh give me some hope that ALLAH will forgive me and I can be back to the person I was, I don’t want to ever do sins again , I have come to know what’s it done to me. I feel ashamed even of doa and asking ALLAH to forgive me with a hardened heart. What would you advise me?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

 

Brother in Islam,

Your grief and remorse on committing the sin is indeed a sign of your Imaan and the first step towards Tawbah. Allah Ta’ala loves those who repent and pardons their sins. No matter how grave a sin may be, if one sincerely repents to Allah, Allah Ta’ala will surely forgive him. Allah states in the Holy Quran:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (سورة الزمر، رقم الآية 53)

Verily Allah forgives all sins. Undoubtedly, He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” (Qurān 39)

 

Never despair of His mercy. Allah Ta‘ala says in another verse:

قلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ 

Say (on My behalf), ‘O servants of Mine who have wronged their souls(by committing sins) do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Surely, Allah will forgive all sins. Surely, He is the One who is the Most-Forgiving, the Very-Merciful.’

 

It is mentioned in a Hadith,

Abu Huraira( Radhiallahu Anhu) reported Allah's Messenger () as saying: Allah, The Exalted and The Glorious, said: I am just as My slave believes me to be and I am with him as he remembers Me. (The Holy Prophet) further said: By Allah, Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His servant than what one of you would do on finding his lost camel in the waterless desert. When he draws near Me by the span of his hand. I draw near him by the length of a cubit and when he draws near Me by the length of a cubit. I draw near him by the length of a fathom and when he draws near Me walking I draw close to him hurriedly.(Muslim)

You should make sincere Tawbah (repentance) immediately with the conviction that it will be accepted. The procedure is to perform two rak‘ahs of nafl prayer, and then make Dua to Allah, saying with sincerity: “O Allah, I seek Your forgiveness from such-and-such a sin. I will never return to it.

 

You state that your heart has become hardened. We advise you adhere to the following,

 

Firstly, find the company of a righteous guide and shaykh in your locality who you can relate to and who has imbibed the qualities of Taqwā and adherence to the Sunnah. Keep his company, confide in him and adhere to his advice.

 

Secondly, be sincere in leaving sins by cutting off all avenues to sin. For example, if one is overcome by the sin of lust, he should cut off all avenues leading to it, by not keeping television in his home, disabling pictures on the internet, not watching films or movies, not attending places where he would be led to temptation and sin or where there is intermingling of sexes, lowering his gaze when outside and in the marketplace, and so on.

 

Thirdly, recite the following du‘ā’ after every Fajr and Maghrib prayer, with feeling and devotion:

اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لاَ إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ لَكَ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي، فَإِنَّهُ لاَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ

Allaahumma Anta Rabbee; laa ilaaha illaa Anta; khalaqtanee wa ana ‘abduk; wa ana ‘alaa ‘ahadika wa wa‘dika mastataa‘t; a‘oodhu bika min sharri maa ana‘tu; aboo’u laka bi ni‘matika ‘alayya wa aboo’u laka bidhambee; faghfirlee; fa innahoo laa yaghfirudh dhunooba illa Anta

 

“O Allah! You are my Lord. There is no deity besides You. You have created me and I am Your slave. And I hold to Your covenant and Your promise as much as I can. I seek protection in You from the evil that I have committed. I confess to You Your blessing over me and I confess to You my sin. So forgive me! For verily, none forgives sin but You.”

 

Fourthly, as far as possible, perform every Salāh in the masjid. Rasūlullāh (sallAllāhu ‘alayhi wasallam) said: “The congregational Salāh exceeds one’s Salāh in his house and his Salāh in his market by 25 times. When one of you performs wudū’ and excels (in performing wudū’), and he attends the masjid, having no intention besides Salāh, he does not tread one step, except Allah raises him one rank thereby and He removes from him one sin, until he enters the masjid. And when he enters the masjid, he is in Salāh so long as (the Salāh) keeps him (in the masjid); and the angels pray over him for as long as he is in his sitting-place in which he will pray. [The angels say]: ‘O Allah, forgive him! O Allah, have mercy on him!’ (Sahīh al-Bukhārī)

 

Hence, Salāh in the masjid is a great means of forgiveness and gaining nearness to Allah Ta‘ālā.

 

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

Arshad Ali

Student Darul Iftaa
Trinidad

 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

http://www.daruliftaa.net/

 

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