Family values


We are the Ummah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and we have the honour of being the greatest Ummah. The outstanding features of Islam are its balance, justice and equity. These features of Islam are found in every aspect of our lives.  It could be in the domestic aspect, social aspect, economic aspect, or in the political aspect of our lives. In the domestic aspect of our lives, the father has rights, the mother has rights, the husband has rights, the wife has rights, the children have rights and all relatives also have rights.

Everyone’s rights are in proportion to their status and position. The father does not have so much rights that they undermine the mother’s rights. The mother does not have so much right that overshadows the father’s rights. Similarly, the parents do not have so much of rights that the rights of the wife and children are neglected. Everyone has been given rights according to their status and position. It is this balanced, just and equitable system of Islam that makes all the aspects of our life so comprehensive, wholesome and successful.

Interference with this wholesome system will create an imbalance in the entire domestic system. It is only when we uphold the rules and principles of balance, justice and equity in our domestic lives that we will find peace and happiness in it.

O Mankind! Fear your Lord, He Who created you from a single soul. From that soul He created its mate and through them He bestowed the earth with countless men and women (Qur’an 4:1)

Family life is the very fundamental aspect of a strong society. It is the nucleus around which the social structure is developed. The strength of the family determines the vitality of the society. The characteristics of the family values are reflected in the outlook and sensibilities of the society.

Family life begins with the union of marriage of  man and woman. It is the duty of the parents to guide the children that are born from this marriage, to educate and to train them to be good Muslims and an asset to society. This is not merely a social responsibility but an obligation under Shariah for the benefit of the children.

The parents will be questioned on the Day of Qiyaamah about how they brought up their children. They will be rewarded if they honoured their obligations and will incur the displeasure of Almighty Allah if they were negligent in honouring their obligations.

Allah Subhana Wa Ta’Ala says:

O believers,  guard yourselves and your kindred against the fire. (66:6 )

Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam says:

All of you are shepherds and are responsible for your flock and a man is responsible for his family. (Muslim and Bukhari).

Just as children have rights upon their parents, parents have rights upon their children. Children are obliged to be obedient to their parents in all matters except when there is a conflict with Islam. Children must be kind and considerate to their parents especially in their old age even if the parents seem to be unreasonable in their request.

Allah Subhana Wa Ta’Ala says:

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and do good to parents. If either of them or both reach old age, do not say to them “uff”(a word of anger or contempt) and do not scold them. And address them with respectful words [23] and submit yourself before them in humility out of compassion and say, “My Lord, be merciful to them as they have as they have brought me up in my childhood.”[24](Surah Bani Israil 17:23-24)

Our beloved Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam and all the other Prophets Alaihis Salam were commanded to believe in the Oneness of Almighty Allah and to worship Him alone.

The next command is to be kind to your parents. Almighty Allah has made parents the means of creating human beings. They suffer much hardship and difficulty in raising children. Allah Almighty along with commanding His own worship ordered that children should treat their parents in a kind manner.

Hadrat Anas radiallahu anhu reported that the messenger of Allah salallahu alayhi wasallam instructed: Whosoever like that Allah Almighty should prolong his life and enlarge his provision he should treat his parents well and deal with his parents in a good manner.(Durr e Mansur, p. 173, vol.4, reproduced from Baihaqi)

Treating relatives in a good manner also prolongs life and increases provisions. The child who does not render good services to his parents will incur difficulties in this world and will lose reward in the Hereafter. They will also be deprived of long life and livelihood which is bestowed upon those who are obedient to their parents and deal with their relatives in a decent manner. Your parents are your key to Paradise or to Hell depending upon your relationship with them. Whoever possesses good qualities has succeeded in this world and the Hereafter.

It is the right of the wife that the husband provides for her the basic necessities of food, clothing and shelter, regardless for financial situation. The place of shelter must be free from the relatives of the husband so that the husband and wife may both cohabit informally. However, if the wife agrees the husband may allow for other members of his family to share the residence.

Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala has given many rights and privileges to the husband. It is a great act of worship for the woman to please her husband.

Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam said:

The woman who offers her five times daily salat, fast in the month of Ramadan, protects her chastity and obeys her husband will have the choice of entering Jannah from whichever door she wishes to enter from. (Ahmad)

This shows how great the rights of the husband are, such that by pleasing him the wife will be given the choice of entering Jannah from any of the eight doors that she pleases

Whats the status of your status?


There is no doubt that social networking sites have become an important part of people’s lives. This is evidenced from the millions of users that are part of these online communities.

While social networking sites can be used for good and/or permissible works such as dawah, business promotions, and breaking news – they are more often than not used for impermissible purposes such as intermingling, browsing photos, chatting, and online relationships. As a result, only a minority refrain themselves from getting involved in impermissible uses of social networking.

In addition to the above impermissible uses, there are other serious harms of social networking sites – as you have correctly mentioned in your inquiry – such as the following:

Using status messages for impermissible things: An enormous amount of time is wasted by users in reading the status messages of their friends. In addition, revealing information about one’s personal activities allows others to make obscene comments, cyberstalk and spy on you. A number of documented incidents as noted later in this article prove that such harassment is increasing at an alarming rate on social networking sites.

What is the point of updating your status – when there are so many inherent risks to your person and reputation in doing so?

Posting photos on social networking sites: Many users add photos of themselves as icons and also upload and share photos of themselves while going about their day, or events they attend and so on.

This impermissibility of photos is further exacerbated when they include pictures of women due to numerous negatives:

a.) It allows mischievous people the ability to anonymously write obscene comments, cyber-stalk, and harass women. This is not hearsay or a mere conjecture. There have been a number of incidents where obscene comments have even driven some young women to take their own lives as well. [iii]

b.) According to numerous references, these photos are also photoshopped and modified to put them in embarrassing and compromising situations. [iv] [v] Would any decent person, male or female, want such pictures of them circulating online?

c.) The increasing prevalence of such online harassment has led to laws by even secular governments to punish such behavior. An example of this is the law in India, governed by the Information Technology Act, Section 67 which prohibits and punishes such actions. [vi]

d.) In fact, one book mentions a 17 year old Muslim girl who wears hijab, had her and her sister’s photo taken from her page and put on naked bodies in an effort to ridicule and harass her. [vii]

It is clear from the evidence cited above that in addition to being impermissible, it is not in the best interest of anyone to post their photos online. It is inconceivable that anyone, much less a Muslim, would want their photos to be cropped, photoshopped and displayed in obscene ways or ridiculed.

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


By Abdul Hannan Nizami

Student Darul Iftaa

Faculty of Jurisprudence & Islamic Verdicts

13 January 2013


Diwali is a religious celebration of the Hindus in which the return of Lord Rama is commemorated, along with Sita and Lakshmana , from his 14-year-long exile and vanquishing the demon-king Ravana. In joyous celebration of the return of their king, the people of Ayodhya, the capital of Rama, illuminated the kingdom by bursting firecrackers.[1]


As Muslims, we are sensitive to our faith (aqeedah) and values. We do not compromise in our aqeedah and do not show complacency to anything contrary to our aqeedah. We are different from the Hindus in our aqeedah and in our values.


During Diwali time, if a Hindu friend invites a Muslim to his home and offers him sweets, it is obvious that it is to share the Diwali celebration with his Muslim friends. A Muslim participating in any Diwali celebration demonstrates respect (ta’zeem) for the occasion, and in view of the polytheist’s practices, it also exemplifies complacency with Shirk thus compromising with ones tawheed.  It is therefore Haram for a Muslim to take part in any part of Diwali including just the meals or sweets. We tolerate different religions practices but do not respect (ta’zeem) them.[2]




[2] وَيَكْفُرُ....وَبِخُرُوجِهِ إلَى نَيْرُوزِ الْمَجُوسِ وَالْمُوَافَقَةِ مَعَهُمْ فِيمَا يَفْعَلُونَ فِي ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ وَبِشِرَائِهِ يَوْمَ النَّيْرُوزِ شَيْئًا لَمْ يَكُنْ يَشْتَرِيهِ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ تَعْظِيمًا لِلنَّيْرُوزِ لَا لِلْأَكْلِ وَالشُّرْبِ وَبِإِهْدَائِهِ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمَ لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ وَلَوْ بَيْضَةً تَعْظِيمًا لِذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ (البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق، ج5ص133، دار الكتاب الإسلامي)

(وَالْإِعْطَاءُ بِاسْمِ النَّيْرُوزِ وَالْمِهْرَجَانِ لَا يَجُوزُ) أَيْ الْهَدَايَا بِاسْمِ هَذَيْنِ الْيَوْمَيْنِ حَرَامٌ بَلْ كُفْرٌ وَقَالَ أَبُو حَفْصٍ الْكَبِيرُ - رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ - لَوْ أَنَّ رَجُلًا عَبَدَ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى خَمْسِينَ سَنَةً ثُمَّ جَاءَ يَوْمُ النَّيْرُوزِ وَأَهْدَى إلَى بَعْضِ الْمُشْرِكِينَ بَيْضَةً يُرِيدُ تَعْظِيمَ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ فَقَدْ كَفَرَ وَحَبَطَ عَمَلُهُ وَقَالَ صَاحِبُ الْجَامِعِ الْأَصْغَرِ إذَا أَهْدَى يَوْمَ النَّيْرُوزِ إلَى مُسْلِمٍ آخَرَ وَلَمْ يُرِدْ بِهِ تَعْظِيمَ الْيَوْمِ وَلَكِنْ عَلَى مَا اعْتَادَهُ بَعْضُ النَّاسِ لَا يَكْفُرُ وَلَكِنْ يَنْبَغِي لَهُ أَنْ لَا يَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ فِي ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ خَاصَّةً وَيَفْعَلُهُ قَبْلَهُ أَوْ بَعْدَهُ لِكَيْ لَا يَكُونَ تَشْبِيهًا بِأُولَئِكَ الْقَوْمِ، وَقَدْ قَالَ - صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ - «مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ» وَقَالَ فِي الْجَامِعِ الْأَصْغَرِ رَجُلٌ اشْتَرَى يَوْمَ النَّيْرُوزِ شَيْئًا يَشْتَرِيهِ الْكَفَرَةُ مِنْهُ وَهُوَ لَمْ يَكُنْ يَشْتَرِيهِ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ إنْ أَرَادَ بِهِ تَعْظِيمَ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ كَمَا تُعَظِّمُهُ الْمُشْرِكُونَ كَفَرَ، وَإِنْ أَرَادَ الْأَكْلَ وَالشُّرْبَ وَالتَّنَعُّمَ لَا يَكْفُرُ.( البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق، ج8ص555، دار الكتاب الإسلامي)

وَيَكْفُرُ بِخُرُوجِهِ إلَى نَيْرُوزِ الْمَجُوسِ وَالْمُوَافَقَةِ مَعَهُمْ فِيمَا يَفْعَلُونَهُ فِي ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ وَبِشِرَائِهِ يَوْمَ نَيْرُوزِ شَيْئًا لَمْ يَكُنْ يَشْتَرِيهِ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ تَعْظِيمًا لِلنَّيْرُوزِ لَا لِلْأَكْلِ وَالشُّرْبِ وَبِإِهْدَائِهِ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ وَلَوْ بَيْضَةً تَعْظِيمًا لِذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ (مجمع الأنهر في شرح ملتقى الأبحر، ج1ص698، دار إحياء التراث العربي)

 (وَالْإِعْطَاءُ بِاسْمِ النَّيْرُوزِ وَالْمِهْرَجَانِ لَا يَجُوزُ) أَيْ الْهَدَايَا بِاسْمِ هَذَيْنِ الْيَوْمَيْنِ حَرَامٌ (وَإِنْ قَصَدَ تَعْظِيمَهُ) كَمَا يُعَظِّمُهُ الْمُشْرِكُونَ (يَكْفُرُ) قَالَ أَبُو حَفْصٍ الْكَبِيرُ: لَوْ أَنَّ رَجُلًا عَبَدَ اللَّهَ خَمْسِينَ سَنَةً ثُمَّ أَهْدَى لِمُشْرِكٍ يَوْمَ النَّيْرُوزِ بَيْضَةً يُرِيدُ تَعْظِيمَ الْيَوْمِ فَقَدْ كَفَرَ وَحَبِطَ عَمَلُهُ (الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار)، ج6ص754، دار الفكر)

ما يأتي المجوس في نيروزهم من أطعمه ونحوها إلى الأكابر ومن كان لهم معه معرفة هل يحل أخذه وهل يضر دين الآخذ فقد قيل أخذه على وجه الموافقة لفرحهم يضر بدينه ولو أخذه لا على ذلك الوجه لا بأس به والاحتراز عنه أسلم (جامع الفصولين، ج2ص174)

(كتاب الفتاوي،ج1ص305، زمزم)

(فتاوي محموديه، ج18ص33، ادارة القرآن)


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