Going for Umrah vs. Serving my Parents

 

Question:

 

I have a question in relation to an issue i am facing. Quite often, i get asked when i am planning to perform Umrah, or to visit Saudi Arabia. In my culture , its common for families to perform Umrah regularly -perhaps on a year/bi-yearly basis.

 

Alhamdulilah, i have completed my Hajj Fardh and have done Umrah. Thus, if i save for example, £500 in my salary i keep in in my account for maybe:

 

a. Saving a house deposit or emergency

b. Save towards investing in projects for my parents (Doing a new kitchen bathroom etc for them)

 

Often, i feel pressured in going to Umrah by wider society, since one not going is either regarded as "stingy", "surpressed", or not of good fate (naseeb daar)

 

Here in the UK wealthy families go regularly - some of which their children, have had their Umrah's paid.  

 

This has often seen me get into disputations saying that for me, there is no need to go (as i am looking after my family), 

 

My questions are:

 

a. Am i doing the correct thing by taking these bills for my parents (after marriage) and deliberately not going Umrah. I try to explain to my family that it is a 'Fardh' to look after parents and Nafil is 'Umrah' - the emotional reaction i get i that i am 'too technical'

 

b. How can i avoid these argumentative situations with family as at times i feel quite upset and feel low about

 

Please advise me in light of the Prophetic Way.

 


 

 

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

 

To perform Umrah repeatedly is indeed an act of virtue.

Consider the following Hadith,

 

 "‏ تَابِعُوا بَيْنَ الْحَجِّ وَالْعُمْرَةِ فَإِنَّهُمَا يَنْفِيَانِ الْفَقْرَ وَالذُّنُوبَ كَمَا يَنْفِي الْكِيرُ خَبَثَ الْحَدِيدِ ‏"

'Perform Hajj and 'Umrah consecutively; for they remove poverty and sin as the bellows removes impurity from iron.'1

 

The reward for any act of virtue depends on one’s sincerity. If one performs Umrah solely for the pleasure of Allah Taala, it is a means of gaining closeness to Allah Taala.

Performing Umrah to impress people of one’s piety or financial status is riya (showing off) and contrary to Ikhlaas (sincerity)

It is also incorrect for a person performing Umrah to look down upon someone not performing Umrah by referring to him in a negative way. Such references could be also be an expression of riya. What is the point of sacrificing so much financial resources and time in maintaining ones status only to be deprived of reward in the hereafter. In that situation, a person not performing Umrah and fulfilling his Shari obligations at home like taking care of his needs, his aged parents etc. is better of as he is earning rewards and gaining the closeness of Allah Taala while the person performing Umrah with show has committed a major sin using the sacred act of Umrah just to show of.

May Allah Taala grant us tawfeeq to learn Ikhlaas and practice Ikhlaas. Ameen.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Huzaifah Deedat

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net

 

 

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سنن النسائي (5/ 115)1

 أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو دَاوُدَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَتَّابٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا عَزْرَةُ بْنُ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ دِينَارٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " تَابِعُوا بَيْنَ الْحَجِّ وَالْعُمْرَةِ، فَإِنَّهُمَا: يَنْفِيَانِ الْفَقْرَ، وَالذُّنُوبَ، كَمَا يَنْفِي الْكِيرُ خَبَثَ الْحَدِيدِ "

 

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