Marital

Question:

My wife is not being affectionate and the love she had for me seems to decline.

Please can you tell me what to pray that will make her be more affectionate and increase love in family.

 

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We are sad to hear about your wife’s decline in love and affection towards you. In a marriage, love is the central pillar of support for the spouses. That love ought to grow over time and not decrease. Why is your wife’s love towards you decreasing? Is there anything you have done wrong? Are you faltering in something you are supposed to do?

 

We advise you to discuss this with your wife and tell her to be open to you. Listen to her and engage her in resolving the problems.[1] Duās alone are not sufficient to solve the problem. Look at the cause of the problem and address them. Also do make duā to Allah to put affect in your efforts to solve the problem. It may be a good idea to consult with someone you trust to advise you in strengthening your bond with your spouse. You may also refer to someone that may have some influence on your wife in changing her attitude towards you.

In the meantime, make abundant supplications to Allah and recite the following dua excessively:

 

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

"Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us the leaders of the God-fearing."[2]

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

AbdulMannan Nizami

Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, IL, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net



[1]  إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ لَنْ تَسْتَقِيمَ لَكَ عَلَى طَرِيقَةٍ، فَإِنِ اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا وَبِهَا عِوَجٌ، وَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهَا، كَسَرْتَهَا وَكَسْرُهَا طَلَاقُهاَ

[صحيح مسلم، كتاب الرضاع، باب الوصية بالنساء، ج٢، ص١٠٩١، دار احياء التراث]

[2]  [سورة الفرقان، الآية ٧٤]

Question:

Can nikah be performed over skype?

 

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

 

In principle, nikāh conducted over the telephone/internet or Skype is not permissible since it does not fulfil the criteria of enacting the nikāh, which is that the Ījāb (proposal) and Qabūl (acceptance) must take place in the actual and physical presence of at least two witnesses in the same sitting. In the case of performing nikāh over the telephone or Skype, both potential spouses are in two different places and the witnesses are not with both parties in one sitting.

 

However, as an alternative, it will be permissible for one of the two persons intending to get married to appoint someone as a wakīl (agent) on the other end to contract the marriage and to pronounce the proposal and acceptance on his/her behalf, in the physical presence of at least two Muslim, sane, mature male witnesses or one male and two female witnesses.[1]

 

For example, if the man is in the UAE and the woman in Pakistan, then the man may appoint somebody in Pakistan as his wakīl (agent) and authorise him to contract the Nikah on his behalf with the woman. Or, the woman may appoint a wakīl (agent) in the UAE to contract the Nikah on her behalf.

 

If the party which has appointed an agent on their behalf wishes to observe the nikāh taking place, then they may hear the nikāh over the phone. However, they may not take any active part in the nikāh.

 

The direct performance of nikāh via Skype without appointing a wakīl (agent) will not be valid.

 

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

Nabeel Valli

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net



[1]   (فلا ينعقد) بقبول بالفعل كقبض مهر ولا بتعاط ولا بكتابة حاضر بل غائب بشرط إعلام الشهود بما في الكتاب ما لم يكن بلفظ الأمر فيتولى الطرفين فتح

(قوله: بل غائب) الظاهر أن المراد به الغائب عن المجلس، وإن كان حاضرا في البلد ط (قوله: فتح) فإنه قال ينعقد النكاح بالكتاب كما ينعقد بالخطاب. وصورته: أن يكتب إليها يخطبها فإذا بلغها الكتاب أحضرت الشهود وقرأته عليهم وقالت زوجت نفسي منه أو تقول إن فلانا كتب إلي يخطبني فاشهدوا أني زوجت نفسي منه، أما لو لم تقل بحضرتهم سوى زوجت نفسي من فلان لا ينعقد؛ لأن سماع الشطرين شرط صحة النكاح، وبإسماعهم الكتاب أو التعبير عنه منها قد سمعوا الشطرين بخلاف ما إذا انتفيا قال في المصفى: هذا أي إذا كان الكتاب بلفظ التزوج، أما إذا كان بلفظ الأمر كقوله زوجي نفسك مني لا يشترط إعلامها الشهود بما في الكتاب؛ لأنها تتولى طرفي العقد بحكم الوكالة، ونقله عن الكامل، وما نقله من نفي الخلاف في صورة الأمر لا شبهة فيه على قول المصنف والمحققين، أما على قول من جعل لفظة الأمر إيجابا كقاضي خان على ما نقلناه عنه فيجب إعلامها إياهم ما في الكتاب. اهـ.

(رد المحتار علي الدر المختار، ج  ٣، ص ١٢، ايج ايم سعيد كمبني)

 

وَلَوْ أَرْسَلَ إلَيْهَا رَسُولًا أَوْ كَتَبَ إلَيْهَا بِذَلِكَ كِتَابًا فَقَبِلَتْ بِحَضْرَةِ شَاهِدَيْنِ سَمِعَا كَلَامَ الرَّسُولِ وَقِرَاءَةَ الْكِتَابِ؛ جَازَ لِاتِّحَادِ الْمَجْلِسِ مِنْ حَيْثُ الْمَعْنَى وَإِنْ لَمْ يَسْمَعَا كَلَامَ الرَّسُولِ وَقِرَاءَةَ الْكِتَابِ لَا يَجُوزُ عِنْدَهُمَا.

وَعِنْدَ أَبِي يُوسُفَ - رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى - يَجُوزُ هَكَذَا فِي الْبَدَائِعِ، وَإِذَا بَلَغَهَا الْكِتَابُ وَقَرَأَتْهُ وَلَمْ تُزَوِّجْ نَفْسَهَا مِنْهُ فِي ذَلِكَ الْمَجْلِسِ وَإِنَّمَا زَوَّجَتْ نَفْسَهَا مِنْهُ فِي مَجْلِسٍ آخَرَ بَيْنَ يَدَيْ الشُّهُودِ وَقَدْ سَمِعَ الشُّهُودُ كَلَامَهُمَا وَمَا فِي الْكِتَابِ يَجُوزُ النِّكَاحُ، كَذَا فِي الْخُلَاصَةِ وَلَوْ قَالَتْ: إنَّ فُلَانًا كَتَبَ إلَيَّ يَخْطُبُنِي فَاشْهَدُوا أَنِّي قَدْ زَوَّجْتُ نَفْسِي مِنْهُ صَحَّ النِّكَاحُ؛ لِأَنَّ الشُّهُودَ سَمِعُوا كَلَامَهُمَا بِإِيجَابِ الْعَقْدِ وَسَمِعُوا كَلَامَ الْخَاطِبِ بِإِسْمَاعِهَا إيَّاهُمْ هَكَذَا فِي الذَّخِيرَةِ وَلَوْ كُتِبَ الْإِيجَابُ وَالْقَبُولُ لَا يَنْعَقِدُ.

كَذَا فِي فَتْحِ الْقَدِيرِ

(الفتاوي الهندية، ج ١، ص ٢٦٩، مكتبة رشيدية)

 

Fatawa Mahmudiyyah, vol. 10, pg. 680, Darul Iftaa Jami'ah Faruqiyyah;

Fatawa Uthmani, vol. 2, pg. 304 & 305, Maktabah Ma'ariful Quran;

Kitabul Fatawa, vol. 4, pg. 305, Zam Zam Publishers;

Fatawa Faridiyyah, vol. 4, pg. 419;

Fatawa Mufti Mahmood, vol. 5, pg. 262, Muhammad Riyadh Darani;

Jami'ul Fatawa, vol. 3, pg. 227, Idara-e-Talifaat-e-Ashrafiyyah;

Contemporary Fatawa by Mufti Muhammad Taqi Uthmani, P. 132, Idara-e-Islamiat

 

 

Question:

Is it permissible for Sunni boy to marry a shia girl? I like this girl right now and she is shia and I am sunni. I am confused and before I proceed I want to know.

Does sunni islam allow shia-sunni marriage. Does shia islam allow shia-sunni marriage?

 

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Brother in Islam,

Marriage is a very important step in one’s life and making the right decision when choosing the correct spouse entails marital success. One very important factor when choosing a spouse is finding a spouse that is pious and that would support you and ensure the correct upbringing of your children according the teachings of Allah and his Rasul Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam. If your spouse has correct traits and beliefs this will have a positive effect on you and your children. Conversely, if she has wrong traits and beliefs so will be the effect on you and your children.

The most important issue in considering a wife, apart from considering her character, beauty etc is her correct beliefs and aqida.  It is inconceivable that two persons living as closely as husband and wife and who have different beliefs which they consider close and dear to them can live with harmony and understanding.

We are from the Ahlus-Sunnah Wal Jamaah and our aqida and value system is very different from Shias. Present day Jafari Shias beliefs are very different from the beliefs of the Ahlus-Sunnah Wal Jamaah. Here are some of their beliefs that we do not agree with:

 

THE TWELVE IMAAMS

Imaamah is a divine station like Nubuwwat. This implies that Sunnis, who do not believe in Imaamah, are unbelievers. According to their beliefs, Allah had chosen twelve men to succeed Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam). The twelfth Imaam however disappeared at the age of five. He is believed to be the awaited Mahdi.

 

THE STATUS OF THE IMAAMS

The Imaams possess more knowledge than the Ambiyaa. They are superior to the Ambiyaa and the entire creation. The Imaams can bring the dead back to life. No knowledge of the heavens and the earth is hidden from them.

 

THE INTERPOLATION OF THE NOBLE QUR'AN

The Qur'an is incomplete and distorted in its present form. This tenet had been explicitly propounded by the classical scholars of Shi'ism, but carefully denied by the contemporary scholars.

 

VILIFICATION AND APOSTASY OF THE SAHAABA

The Sahaaba were guilty of wilfully distorting and corrupting the Deen of Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam). They turned renegade after the demise of Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) except the immediate household of Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam).

 

THE PERMISSIBILITY OF MUT'A

 

VIRTUES OF TAQIYYA

To gain virtue and reward by tricking or lieing to a Sunni Muslim.

 

Islam and Shi'ism are two parallel streams of thought that can never converge. They are as distinct from each other, as is Islam to the Ahlul-Kitaab. To ignore these differences is to ignore the stark reality.

If the girl is a Jafari Shia and she holds the above mentioned beliefs or some of them, you should not marry her. Advise her to adopt the correct version of Islam and become a Sunni. Once she does that, you may marry her.[1]

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Ismail Dawoodjee

Student Darul Iftaa
Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net

 

[1]الا تكون المراة مشركة اذا كان الرجل مسلما لا يجوز للمسلم ان ينكح المشركة لقول الله تعالى و لاتنكحوا المشركات حتى يؤمنّ(البدائع ج3 ص458 علمية)

فتاوى محمودية ج17 ص70 م محمودية

فتاوى بينات ج3 ص153 م بينات

 فمقتضى الوجه حل مناكحتهم ...بخلاف من خالف القواطع المعلومةبالضرورة من الدين... ظهر ان الرافضى ان كان ممن يعتقدالالوهية فى على  او ان جبريل غلط فى الوحى (رد المختار ج3 ص46 سعيد)

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