My wife is not being affectionate and the love she had for me seems to decline.

Please can you tell me what to pray that will make her be more affectionate and increase love in family.



In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We are sad to hear about your wife’s decline in love and affection towards you. In a marriage, love is the central pillar of support for the spouses. That love ought to grow over time and not decrease. Why is your wife’s love towards you decreasing? Is there anything you have done wrong? Are you faltering in something you are supposed to do?


We advise you to discuss this with your wife and tell her to be open to you. Listen to her and engage her in resolving the problems.[1] Duās alone are not sufficient to solve the problem. Look at the cause of the problem and address them. Also do make duā to Allah to put affect in your efforts to solve the problem. It may be a good idea to consult with someone you trust to advise you in strengthening your bond with your spouse. You may also refer to someone that may have some influence on your wife in changing her attitude towards you.

In the meantime, make abundant supplications to Allah and recite the following dua excessively:


رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

"Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us the leaders of the God-fearing."[2]


And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best


AbdulMannan Nizami

Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, IL, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

[1]  إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ لَنْ تَسْتَقِيمَ لَكَ عَلَى طَرِيقَةٍ، فَإِنِ اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا وَبِهَا عِوَجٌ، وَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهَا، كَسَرْتَهَا وَكَسْرُهَا طَلَاقُهاَ

[صحيح مسلم، كتاب الرضاع، باب الوصية بالنساء، ج٢، ص١٠٩١، دار احياء التراث]

[2]  [سورة الفرقان، الآية ٧٤]


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